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In January’s newsletter, I wrote about how I came to learn how to romanticise my life. That in order to do that, I essentially had to unlearn the commonly spewed belief that one is only really fulfilled, only really able to experience true joy and beauty, when doing or experiencing or being in communion with someone you are also in love with.
That unlearning, that change in me, came as a result of many, many things. Perhaps mainly though, a lot of absorbing the energy and work of as many women, in particular, who think and live in a way that embodies single positivity. Women who have a more broadminded view of what constitutes a happy, fulfilled life. Who don’t believe that sunsets look less beautiful if you watch them alone, or with someone you’re not also having sex with.
I really believe that you are what you consume. What you do. Who and what you engage with. It’s repetition that has defined so many aspects of how we live, told us what is ‘normal’. And it’s exposure to different ways of living and experiencing life -through the books we read, the podcasts we listen to, the people we engage with - on and off line - that can broaden our views of the world, that can expand our imaginations to be able to picture an array of different lives for ourselves.
Stories - real and imagined - inform our imaginations and our choices. When we can see that there are all sorts of possible happy beginnings, middles, and ends, it’s easier to live them. It’s easier to feel okay - or good, very good, even - while living them.
These are some of the things that have helped shift the way I see love and being single, and broadened my mind a bit, in that regard:
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